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Virgin At 23

Virgin at 23 😊 I've grown up in church my entire life! My parents are pastors so I couldn't escape a service haha As soon as you become a preteen your Sunday school teachers and youth leaders all begin to teach you that you shouldn't have sex until you're married. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 comes to mind, "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. Therefore honor God with your body." After hearing this repeatedly at a young age I vowed that I would remain a virgin until I was married. Believe it or not, most people don't expect "pks" (preacher kid) to be virgins. There's a myth that preacher's kids are freaks and because they've been restricted or in this church bubble all their lives, it's inevitable for them to wild out as they get older. I've always wanted to prove that myth wrong. I'm also one who learns from other people's experiences. I've seen the soul ties that sex creates between people, I've seen the complications that sex adds to relationships, I've seen people get stds, I've seen people get pregnant and I didn't want any of these things to be my story. Sometimes I get rejected by males because I don't want to have sex before marriage, some think I'm lying about being a virgin and some respect my decision but aren't interested in talking to me. I remember my peers becoming sexually active when we were in middle school. I was absolutely amazed. As we got older and went to high school of course even more of my peers became sexually active. I can honestly say I never felt pressured by my peers to have sex. Although I had heard stories from them about how good/great sex was, most of them regretted losing their virginity so soon. The majority of females that know I'm a virgin tell me that I'm not missing anything and that it will be worth the wait. Of course I have some other people who say I have to test it out before marriage because he might not be a good sex partner but I know that God will supply all my needs! Lol I've learned the importance of surrounding myself with like minded people. My friends/associates aren't virgins but they're celibate. We're all striving to honor the Lord with our bodies. I remain a virgin because I truly want to please God! Giving myself to a man that God did not create specifically for me would make me feel devalued. My special gift would no longer be priceless. In closing, I don't stay busy to remain a virgin and I'm not lonely because I'm a virgin. I stay busy and experience occasional loneliness because I'm single. I have to use this opportunity of being single to begin to fulfill God's purpose for my life. During this single season God is healing all brokenness and making me whole. My husband will not complete me but he will compliment my purpose and together we will be a force in the kingdom of God. Being a virgin may seem impossible but I'm living proof that it is possible! I'm worth the wait. God Bless

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